The benefits of sharing with others...

Wednesday, Mar 25, 2009

Dear Eduardo-

I certainly agree with you about the sharing. I think that sometimes, people don't want to share because they are in the process of writing a book which eventually they will sell. I look forward to opportunities to share by giving talks, instructing others, volunteering at the local LDS Family History Center, etc. I always end up getting so much back in return and learning new ways to research.

Recently, because of my efforts, I have received emails from a cousin in Canada who is willing to have his DNA tested for a common line of ours for which we only have early 1800's information. This Canadian cousin is also in contact with someone new in Tashkent, Uzbekistan. We are excited about sending emails to them and possibly connecting our family to theirs. Last weekend, I was able, quite by chance to find a book called A Day in the Life of the Soviet Union for $3.99. The book shows where we had been told some of our ancestors came from and the upcoming DNA tests might prove it.

This week, I came in contact with another person from Canada and we will be meeting to share ideas when she vacations here. Her relative is an AGUILAR so I might be able to help that person with Hispanic genealogy.

Another person sent me an email this week and is asking about Santa Rita, Ayotlan, Jalisco. I shall be going there soon and doing lots of research. And one more cousin was heard from this week, who is from Santa Elena but living in Atotonilco el Alto. I think you said you have some people from Atotonilco el Alto, too, so I am waiting to hear more about your family names.

I think that yes, if we help others, those little parts of our research that have been dead ends for such a long time can turn into new avenues of discovery.

Sincerely,
Patricia Burton
San Diego, Ca.

--- On Tue, 3/24/09, Eduardo H Seoane wrote:

> From: Eduardo H Seoane
> Subject: [Nuestros Ranchos] The benefits of sharing
> To: general@lists.nuestrosranchos.com
> Date: Tuesday, March 24, 2009, 11:53 PM
> I was present when someone, (an instructor) told a group of
> people that a family member had asked him for a copy of his
> genealogy and he responded by telling his relative that he
> was not going to give him anything because he had worked
> hard and had spent many years and a lot of money compiling
> his genealogy. This individual told the group that they
> should not share their genealogy either, "que les
> cueste a ellos también" were his words.
> My lovely wife always reminds me of “the boomerang
> effect.” She say's, “what goes around comes
> around.” Basically, as I understand it, what you give is
> what you get. So for all you who are holding back out there,
> you might want to share a little because, who knows, maybe
> you share the information that someone needs that extends
> your line back another ten generations. It is intresting how
> that works, often the giver receives a lot more than they
> gave.
> I do not think we, as a genealogical group, should be in
> the business of expecting something, before we share our
> information. One gets a lot further in life when they have a
> group, like this one assisting them on their quest to find
> their family. I hope this group will continue to be a place
> where I can come and gain knowledge and share a few things I
> have picked up along the way. Some of you might or might
> not share my opinion, so feel free to comment.
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> Estaba presente cuando alguien, (un instructor) le dijo a
> un grupo de personas que un miembro de su familia le había
> pedido una copia de su genealogía y él le respondió a su
> pariente que no se la iba a dar porque él había trabajado
> duro y por muchos años, gastado mucho dinero, compilando su
> genealogía. Este individuo le dijo al grupo que no
> compartieran su genealogía tampoco, “que les cueste a
> ellos también” eran sus palabras.
> Mi esposa encantadora siempre me recuerda de “el efecto
> bumerang.” Ella dice, “lo qué va, viene de regreso.”
> Básicamente, como yo lo entiendo, lo qué usted da es lo
> que usted consigue. Así es que, para todos ustedes que se
> están aguantando, a lo mejor quieran compartir un poco,
> porque quien sabe, quizás compartes la información que
> alguien necesita para extender la línea de el y la suya,
> otras diez generaciones. Es interesante cómo eso funciona,
> a menudo el que da recibe mucho más de lo que ellos
> dieron.
> No pienso que nosotros, como grupo genealógico, debemos
> estar en el negocio de esperar algo antes de compartir
> nuestra información. Uno llega mucho más lejos en la vida
> cuando tiene un grupo, como éste asistiendo en la
> búsqueda para encontrar a su familia. Espero que este grupo
> continúe siendo un lugar en donde pueda obtener
> conocimiento y compartir algunas cosas que he aprendido.
> Algunos de ustedes a lo mejor no comparten mi opinión,
> así que siéntanse libres en comentar.
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